Tuesday 21 January 2014

Sports, Dating, Pinterest

Lots to talk about today!

You can download this and other podcasts from iTunes, search for The Genderqueer Universe.

Alternatively, right click on http://traffic.libsyn.com/crossdressingcanopy/20140122_Sports_Dating_Pinterest.mp3 to download the podcast.

Contents

1. Sports

Lionel Messi and the hazards of a red suit - http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/blogs-magazine-monitor-25728213

Why we find muscular women wildly perplexing? - Jamilla Rosdahl - http://www.brisbanetimes.com.au/queensland/why-do-we-find-muscular-women-wildly-perplexing-20140114-30rjf.html

2. Assaults on men in Sydney

No country for young men: notions of gender must evolve - Catharine Lumby - http://www.smh.com.au/comment/no-country-for-young-men-notions-of-gender-must-evolve-20140102-307rq.html

A horrific incident and an unfortunate reminder - http://thepeopleandplaces.wordpress.com/2014/01/03/a-horrific-incident-and-an-unfortunate-reminder/

3. SHOP magazine - Which Look Pulls The Most Dates


Link to podcast article - http://genderqueeruniverse.blogspot.com/2014/01/sports-dating-pinterest.html

4. Healthy crossdressing: Avoiding the Supreme Court of Femme

http://crossdressingcanopy.blogspot.com.au/2014/01/health-crossdressing-avoiding-supreme.html

5. Pinterest and Trans-nipples

Kirill Sadovy - http://www.pinterest.com/pin/370491506816395559/

Daniel Landroche - http://www.pinterest.com/pin/370491506816395542/

Modelling shot - http://www.pinterest.com/pin/370491506816395363/

Concern over trans-nipples - Dossier's Andrej Pejic Cover Censored By Barnes & Noble, Borders, - http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2011/05/16/dossier-andrej-pejic-cover-censored_n_862424.html

6. Curse of the mummyji: The eternal but shifting battle between Indian wives and their fearsome mothers-in-lawhttp://www.economist.com/news/christmas-specials/21591745-curse-mummyji


Saturday 18 January 2014

Healthy Crossdressing: Avoiding the Supreme Court of Femme

I love expressing my femme side. After spending my working life as a stereotypical man in the financial industry, it is great to let loose my femme side during my off-time and:

  • read fashion mags,
  • wear cute dresses, costumes, or my corset,
  • practise my makeup, have fun trying to pass,
  • cook in my frilly pink apron,
  • read romance novels, and;
  • chat to my femme friends over facebook, email, or other digital forms!

These activities usually provide me great enjoyment. However, sometimes being femme stops  being fun.  It generally occurs when I start using the femme activity to try to prove to myself that as a man I can still be femme.

I take on obsessive behaviours, including:

  • Instead of casually dressing, and putting on makeup, I firmly concentrate on passing and bemoan the parts of me that are masculine.
  • Instead of relaxing and reading, I become obsessed with the need to go out and prove myself as a woman in public.
  • Instead of enjoying my femme chats, I wait anxiously for people to reply thinking that their attention will justify my femininity.

These obsessive behaviours are designed to convince myself that I am a full femme. But they don't work. No matter how much attention I get, I know that there will always be people who don't accept I am a full femme. What I want is some mythical "Supreme Court of Femme" to rule that I have femme status. But no such court exists, so I continue fighting a forlorn battle for everyone's acceptance that leaves me anxious, upset, and unfulfilled.

It is not healthy for me. From now on, I am going to monitor my dressing and be careful about how I express myself, in the hope of taking power away from my "Supreme Court of Femme" obsessions. This will hopefully leave me more wonderful femme time with less anxiety!

Tuesday 7 January 2014

Latex, social-media, story

First podcast for 2014!

You can download it from iTunes, search for The Genderqueer Universe. Alternatively, right-click on http://traffic.libsyn.com/crossdressingcanopy/20140108_Latex_social-media_story.mp3

Contents:

1. 2014 - New Year resolutions

2. Corset purchase

3. A review of social media for crossdressing

https://plus.google.com/

http://www.experienceproject.com/

http://www.crossdressers.com/forums/

http://www.reddit.com/r/crossdressing

http://www.reddit.com/r/transgender

http://www.reddit.com/r/Crossdressing_support

www.facebook.com

4. Gender in the media

http://www.ellecanada.com/living/culture/jenna-talackova-biography-of-a-transgender-model/a/81687

Ten things: North Korea's film industry http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/world-asia-23251187

Are Gender Stereotypes Good for Business?http://www.huffingtonpost.com/lynda-bekore/gender-stereotypes-sales_b_4496001.html

5. Fashion: CherryPopLatex - through Etsy

My Dress of the Year (already!) - Custom Mademoiselle French themed Latex Dress, horizontal stripes pencil dress with long sleeves.
http://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/95803248/custom-mademoiselle-french-themed-latex?ref=shop_home_feat

Custom Bombshell Puff Sleeve Latex Dress with contrast edging -http://www.etsy.com/uk/listing/102197862/custom-bombshell-puff-sleeve-latex-dress?ref=shop_home_active

Custom Bombshell Latex Sweetheart Neckline Puff Sleeve Top with contrast edging

Thursday 2 January 2014

A touch of perspective, a transgender story

A touch of perspective, a transgender story

How a touch of perspective and a big smile can be a crossdresser's best friend

Steve gazed into the mirror, smiled, and smacked his lips. His transformation into Gemma was complete.

Steve loved his femme time, the occasions when he could fully express a feminine side that was often suppressed in daily life. However, today was the weekend, meaning Steve's Gemma side was free and ready to play.

Gemma went to her wardrobe and sorted through her shoes. She needed some cute black ones to match her little black dress, but which? Her comfortable flats, or 3-inch heels? Instantly the voices inside her head surged.

“Wear the heels, they look amazing on you!” her femme side screamed.

“No, flats. Heels will make you too tall and stand out.” her negative side responded.

“But heels are what you want to wear!”

“But you'll be too tall to pass as a woman.”

Thankfully the voices then eased, and Gemma made her decision. She picked up the 3-inch heels and placed them one-by-one on her feet. Sure, they made her over 6-feet tall, and less likely to pass, but she had spent all week conscribing to society's gender norms and wanted to be herself tonight.

Gemma picked up her purse and headed for the door. She stopped briefly at the mirror and did her final checks. With everything looking wonderful, she smiled, opened the door, and headed outside.

On her way out, she walked past her neighbour Patrick's door. It was open, with Patrick looking out. Gemma smiled and said hello, while Patrick waved back. Gemma had often wondered what
Patrick thought of this show going on before his eyes. He seemed intrigued, but had yet to bring it up. Oh well, Gemma thought, I'm sure we'll talk about it some time!

She walked out of her apartment building and down onto the street. It was about six blocks between Gemma's apartment and the restaurant where she was meeting friends for dinner. She clip-clopped her way down the well-worn roads, attracting polite interest and some curious looks from passers-by. Nothing unusual, and she happily walked towards her dinner when a yell rang out.

“EVERYBODY! Look at the sick pervert!”

The crowd turned to look at Gemma. She stopped, chilled to the bone, and turned to face the man who was the source of the abuse.

It was a man in his mid-twenties. He had a look of anger and hatred in his eyes. He again bellowed out.

“Get out of here you faggot!”

The words stung Gemma, hitting her hard until she stopped herself. She remembered that this, just like the other abuse she had received in the past, does not reflect upon her at all. It reflected this man's struggle with a complicated world, one where people can no longer be incorrectly pigeon-holed, and the facade of gender roles does not hold.

Amid a fresh volley of expletives from the man, Gemma felt a new emotion , different from the stinging pain she felt earlier.

Pity. Pity that this man could not understand or cope with the reality of this different and changing world.

And then another emotion: pride. Pride in her own ability to be brave enough to be herself and stand up against those who try to suppress her.

With this pride, Gemma's heart lightened and she gave her abuser a small grin.

Seeing it, the abuser got more angry.

“What the fuck are you grinning at?”

Gemma grin expanded and she burst into a laugh. The abuser looked uneasy, not expecting this response.

“Fuck off sicko!”

“Get lost you moron,” Gemma stated defiantly, “The world would be better off without your prejudice!”

The moron crestfallen, stumbled away muttering obscenities under his breath.

Several people in the crowd clapped. A young woman walked up to Gemma and told her she was so brave. Gemma smiled a happy smile, and thanked the woman.

She walked on and in a few minutes was at the restaurant.

She walked in and soon saw her good friend Elissa. Elissa rushed up to her and gave her a hug.

“It is so great to see you Gemma, I am so glad you could make it!”

“Me too Elissa, me too.”